When I first started at my job (4 years ago) I was told that it would be ok if I occasionally needed to work from home. I think the first year I may have worked from home one day that entire year. After all - I only needed to take care of my kids if they were sick on a Monday - since Dave was home the rest of the week. It was pretty much the same the 2nd year. Last year though (2013) - Dave started his job at AAM. He worked way more than I did and he made more than me. I had more sick and vacation time as well. I also could work from home - everything that I need to do - I can do all from home. They were very adamant that I couldn't work from home regularly - I understood that. They had issues with the person before - so totally understandable. Luckily, since Dave worked 2nd shift - I rarely had to take an entire day off. Usually if Keagan was sick - Dave would take care of him in the morning and then I would come home early and take a half sick day. Nobody ever seemed to complain about that.
I took a whole 6 days off when Dave died. I was busy every single one of those days - taking care of things. I worked the rest of May and the first 2 weeks of June until school was out, and then my work agreed to let me work from home 4 days per week for the summer. I felt very fortunate to be able to do this. I knew it wouldn't be a permanent fix. I always planned to go back to the office the day after school started (I always take the first day of school off so I can drop off and pick up my kids on their first day). I started getting an attitude from some people in August. I don't' know if they didn't know that was the agreement or what - but it was quite irritating.
My kids have been extra sick this year. Keagan always has issues - especially in the cold weather. Malea is just dealing with her grief in various ways and one is to get sick occasionally. It is just me - I very rarely have someone else to call to go pick up my kids if they are sick. If the school would let Malea walk home - there are days I would do that. It isn't really that far. So - I've needed to work from home more often. It isn't like I do it every week (there was about a month there that it was). I probably have worked from home once a month. Sometimes I just have stuff locally that I need to get done before everything closes and I can't unless I'm here to do it.
So - today the kids had a snow day. The roads were extremely slippery last night and Keagan had this awful cough anyway. So - I decided to work from home. I couldn't take a sick day - because I have so much work to do with it being the end of the semester. Around 9:30 (after I'd been working for about 2 hours) that I would have to take a vacation day. What? I've been working and have so much work to do. I'm not going to do double duty though. So - I sent a message to my boss. All the stuff I needed to do would have to fall on him - so he got on the phone with his boss. They ended up allowing me to go ahead and actually work.
Through that hour though - I was so upset. I was shaking and just crying :( I can't keep doing this. I do so much work and so many people love me....why are a few people (that apparently don't love me) making me feel like I don't do anything.
I seriously have debated taking a year or 2 off. I'm just so afraid of when I decide to go back to work - will I be able to go back and get a decent job. Will people look at my resume and think - what happened (though I'm sure my explanation would be justified). Things change all the time in IT....not using some of my skills would hinder me and some of my skills could be obsolete in a few years (not all though). I know many people that have left to be stay at home parents and have such a hard time getting back in to the work force. I guess most of them all have though....
After all this - my boss is trying to push for maybe defining my job differently. He totally understands where I'm coming from and doesn't think I'm being ridiculous. I wish I didn't have to be in this situation. I wish I still had my other half that could occasionally leave to go get our kids - or at least be close on a snow day when they have to be home. I don't have that though....and now I have all this other stress on top of everything else I'm trying to deal with :(
Sometimes people really suck....and I'm really going to have a hard time with this person that acts all nice to my face and really is not at all. I love how they think I'm just taking advantage of the situation - trust me I have made so many sacrifices to not work from home even more :(
Sorry for the lovely complaints I have....feels a little better to get that off my chest. Every time I think I'm going to be ok...stuff like this happens. I know that is the case for everyone....at least I have a job....it could be worse :( If I keep telling myself that - maybe I could keep moving ahead.
I am a wife and mother of 2. I have many different interests - baking, home renovations, music, education ;)