So after getting upset with Malea for the millionth time over her room and missing assignments....we finally made some progress (well...I won't really know for a few days). She talked to a counselor yesterday, but wouldn't talk to me about it. She just told me the counselor would call me. Well, I haven't heard from her yet, so she talked to me about it.
They talked about the different stages of grief. Malea said that she is in and out of the anger stage. That has been quite apparent. She also said she is just going through life hoping that she'll wake up to a bad dream. I totally get where she's coming from - I feel the same way. I know he won't come back, but I don't know how to quite move forward either.
It is really difficult to try to help her out and be positive when I'm having such a hard time myself. I explained that her Dad would only want the best for her - no matter what.
I told her we need to come up with a list of what we think Dave would have done with them. I told her that I can't guarantee that I can do them with her (I have some limits to what I'll do). I will find some way for these things to be done though. So far...this is what we came up with:
Hiking in the mountains (I think I can do this)
Cliff jumping (any volunteers?? not thinking this is one I'll do)
Sky diving (way in the future....and something they planned to do when she was 18, so we have a few years to find a volunteer)
Parasailing (I might be able to talked in to doing this - I have actually thought about it before now)
I'm so glad she finally talked to me - and cried. I know a little bit of what is going on in her head.
I so wish I could focus solely on them right now.....not sure how well I'm doing , but I certainly hope it isn't too bad.
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