There isn't one thing that is good about single parenting. At least I haven't found it. I'm fortunate that I have only been a single parent for 3 years. I know what it is like to not be a single parent. It was pretty awesome. We were great partners. We each had our kid - Dave had Malea and I had Keagan that we had wrapped around us. Dave was so hard on Keagan - mainly because he was just his curious little kid that got in to everything and just was always on the go. Malea was a pretty easy kid - and didn't get in to everything. She could ask Daddy for anything and he'd get it for her. Don't get me wrong - I love both of my kids - I think just Malea takes more after me and Keagan more after Dave - so I think you always butt heads more with the kid more like you. Malea was just always more Daddy's girl and it killed me at times - so I was glad that Keagan was more of a Momma's boy.
I miss that united front, that sounding board though. I have some people (family members) that try to stick up for me and try to tell my kids to listen. My kids don't take well to that - they kind of think - you aren't my parent - what are you doing. I know I would have felt the same way. Dave didn't exactly have the best time getting them to listen to me either. I was so mean this weekend - I was just really crabby most of last week and wasn't very nice. My meaness was warranted - I'm tired of doing most things by myself - but I still felt bad with how much I was yelling. It isn't like it helps - they just get upset and that makes them work even slower.
Sometimes I just need a break - but my only break is when I'm at work or working out. Keagan always wants to go everywhere with me - so I don't go to the store or anything usually without him. I feel bad if I do anything without either one of them. Sometimes I think - I'll go to the store on my way home from work - but usually I'll talk myself out of it because I just feel bad getting home later.
They are older now and Malea can keep an eye on Keagan (he doesn't really need one - but at least she's there if something major goes wrong). I just like to at least pop in and check on things before I do something else.
I also miss Dave telling me to chill out. He knew when I was at my breaking point and would just be like - "Ange - chill out - I'll take care of it." I would be mad that he would say that - but it really did help. He certainly didn't clean up every day - but there were days I would come home to a pretty clean house. It was always so nice. That definitely doesn't happen now. It certainly could - my kids are capable - but they never do it. Their idea of clean and mine are just not the same. A room can have trash laying everywhere and they still think it is clean - it gets on my nerves. I know that this definitely is an all parent thing - not just a single parent thing. I asked them the other day if I was going to have to come to their house and clean because they were incapable. They said no - but I have my doubts. They both should wear glasses - but I'm still pretty sure they can see that a room is not clean. Is it really that hard?
I got my house about 75% clean this weekend - was hoping to be in the 90% - but didn't happen. I did manage to bring in some more stuff from the garage and get rid of a box in my office. I'm getting there - slowly but surely. I had not been bringing much in from my garage lately - but I really need to. I still have quite a few things that I'd really love to find. I still never found my wireless vacuum - so annoyed that it went missing. I have the charger - but the vacuum disappeared. I think I looked in every box at least for that - and never found it.
Malea has been doing really well the last couple of weeks. She hangs out upstairs a lot more and we've played a couple of games lately. I've heard her on the phone a couple of times as well and her teachers have really noticed a difference. She has been trying to be more helpful to me as well - she just still doesn't do some things because she says I just do it better. They both say that - that doesn't mean they shouldn't try. I'd be totally fine with a job 75% finished and I just have to touch it up. It still saves me time - they just don't seem to get that I work all day, am working on 2 houses, do the laundry, dishes and cooking almost every day - as well as I didn't make half the messes in the house!!
I am a wife and mother of 2. I have many different interests - baking, home renovations, music, education ;)