I'm so at a loss as to how to get through to Malea. I try to tell myself that other parents have it so much worse, but it isn't really helping. She's an amazing student and all her teachers think she's just the perfect kid. She's driving me insane!
Today was the first time since school started that I didn't have to yell at her to get up (she kept refusing to use her actual alarm clock). She was up before me, but then just sat in the living room for a while and finally went up to her room. I went in there and she was just laying in there.
She refuses to help out with anything. Yesterday I finally got her to roll the garbage cart to the back. I take the trash out there - how hard is it to bring it back when she walks home daily and has to walk right by it!??? Apparently - that is quite the concept. Her room is ridiculous.....she'll spend an hour up there and I think it gets more messy.
Malea is so much like me in many ways. Dave used to get mad at how frustrated I would get with her. So much of my frustration is that while she is like me academically and even part of her attitude - I was never like that. I always did my chores. My room was always really clean. I would have done pretty much anything my Mom asked me - and not after she had to ask me 20 times getting angrier each time. I loved watching my sister - I did pretty much anything she asked me to do.
Malea, however, refuses to do anything I ask the first time. She never wants to do anything with her brother at all. Most of the time it is because she wants to read....I get that. Some probably attribute this to her Dad....but all of this was like that before - it has escalated though. He could get her to do some things - but it never stayed that way.
I'm just so angry that I just don't want to do anything for her anymore. I want to just do what is required (take her to school, etc) and just never ask her for anything. She has no problem doing things for others - she helps out her past teachers all the time.
I just wonder why she hates me so much:( I keep debating on counseling for her. It didn't work for me, but maybe it could hel
I can get Keagan to do pretty much anything for me. I don't want him to get the same attitude though.
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