Last night was our 2nd night with the new therapist. Malea seems to like her - so we will plan on seeing her for now. Malea does open up a little while in there. I had to take Keagan this week - that wasn't a good plan. Sometimes he can sit and watch a movie - but never when we are somewhere new. He's just too curious and wouldn't sit still.
She did agree that Malea was stuck. I have felt that way for a while and while I have seen some improvement - we have gone backwards a little. Malea is convinced that she's this whole other person than she was before. I know that big things like this change you - but it doesn't have to change pretty much everything about you. So - the therapist wants to see me alone to help me cope with her and her stuckness (I know that isn't a word). It was kind of nice to get some validation - that I'm not doing anything wrong.
Last night I was asking the kids questions from a survey on Facebook. It was nice hearing Malea say that I'm always there for her and always trying to help her. I haven't felt like she thought I was helping or trying to help. It is nice to know that she really does know that I have her best interests at heart and am not just trying to be mean. She still will barely mention the word Dad - even when I asked her the question "What makes Mom sad?" - she didn't say Dad. I asked her why she didn't say that - "I don't want to think about it". I keep hoping she'll try to improve to honor his memory - but I think she doesn't try to think about him. I think that is why she is stuck. She did also say that she seems stuck with her reading - she wants her to read more happy things. I have noticed that when Malea tells me about her books - they always seem to be about one parent having died and the child trying to deal with it.
Counting down to vacation....although I looked at the weather and for the next 10 days it isn't above 70 there :( I don't think any tanning is going to happen!
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