Going to court and trying to make things easier did not help. It didn't really even help a little bit. It actually made things worse in many ways. James' youngest has not been to visit in over a month. It doesn't appear that she'll come anytime soon. We have been constantly told how horrible we were for keeping the oldest for Christmas even though it was our holiday. She had them last year.
We dropped the oldest off today for her 2nd half of the break with her Mom. There are 3 days between the end of the break and her Mom's weekend so she asked if she could have her for the extra 3 days. We agreed that it was ok and we would meet her on Sunday. Of course she then says - well you drive all the way here on Sundays. Well we gave her 3 days - and were avoiding 2 other halfway meets so that is only fair. Nope - she said that was not ok. So now we are the bad guys because if she won't meet halfway and she's making us come all the way there on Sunday no matter what - we aren't giving those 3 days. This is so ridiculous honestly. The same thing happened over Thanksgiving. We dropped them off but she wouldn't meet us halfway - so we had to drive all the way both ways. We already do 75% of the driving. It is true that we are still going to be doing more driving than we would have. However - I'm so tired of us always giving in. We already gave her 3 extra days and actually an extra hour today that she guilted us into.
I'm so tired of every one of these conversations happening with the girls in her car. She tells us they are both crying and that we are causing all of these problems. We aren't. We don't tell them anything. We actually did talk to one of them to tell her we were sorry that we weren't budging about the meeting halfway and she might not get the extra time.
She's also angry that we won't allow the youngest to take her Christmas presents home. Last year we allowed that and we didn't get any of them back over here. I bought them a lot of warm clothes and none of them came here and we had to buy all new warm clothes shortly thereafter because she would no longer send clothes. We had already provided enough and just needed pants - but no - we had to double our efforts.
I'm just tired. I know I'm not supposed to take all of this so personally. I'm just James' wife. I'll never get a Christmas gift from them or a birthday gift. I'm not about gifts - I just wish I was recognized. I planned this amazing vacation this past weekend - and no thanks and one didn't even come :( I just don't know :(
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