When I was younger - around the ages of 8 and 15 - I used to really hate that people would hug me or get close to me. It just made me uncomfortable and I didn't like it. I would say I probably stayed that way until I had my first boyfriend. He was definitely a hugger - his family was that way and he was always holding my hand, putting his arm around me or hugging me. That was odd for me - but I really learned to enjoy it. Dave was the same way. We always sat really close to each other on the couch. His family isn't as affectionate, but he was always very affectionate with our kids. I have always made it a point to have a fairly affectionate household. Keagan actually won't go in to school without a hug and a kiss (unless he's mad at me - and then I still give him a hug). Malea doesn't like hugs as much - but I still give them to her. She does love to sit on top of me or put her legs over my lap - so I know she still appreciates the affection we've shown her. Not too many other people get close to her - so she doesn't get too many hugs that I'm aware of. She doesn't hate it though I don't think, like I did at her age.
I decided to try to research and see if I could turn off the need for human contact and apparently - it isn't possible :( I was hoping I could teach myself to go back to how I was as a child and hate for people to touch me. I wouldn't want to stop hugging my kids - but was hoping I could become more cold to the rest of the world. Guess I'll just have to deal....I know people that seem to be this way - so I wish I could be that way. They aren't the most loving people though - so I guess I don't want to lose that aspect. I have learned to basically go a whole day without hardly talking. If it wasn't for my kids and the occasional phone call I take at work - I could probably go the whole day in silence.
I feel like I've been in a fog lately. I have been striving to try to lose some weight and clean my house - and I've been making a bit of progress. I have been busy working on a plan for my Grandma's house and I haven't been at my other house very much in the last month. I really want to get it done. I was hoping I could get 2 closets worked on this weekend. Saturday is busy - so I'm not sure I can get over there much this weekend. The week days have been crazy and I just haven't been able to get over there.
I am a wife and mother of 2. I have many different interests - baking, home renovations, music, education ;)